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You love somebody, that does not mean that because you have given some love to somebody your love is less than it was before.

It remains the same, it is not less because you have given, on the contrary, it may be even more. It is not ordinary economics.

In the ordinary economics if you give something, of course you will have less. If you have ten rupees with you and you give five to somebody you cannot still have ten rupees, and certainly you cannot have fifteen rupees; you will have only five rupees left. This is the ordinary economics, the economics of the outside world.

The inner world is totally different.

You give love, and you still have the same love or maybe even more because by giving, your love starts flowing. It may have been dormant, stagnant; by sharing it starts flowing. It is like you draw water from a well, the moment you draw water from a well, more water starts coming to the well from the hidden springs, to fill the space.

If you don’t draw the water from the well the water will become dirty, it may even become poisonous. And the springs will not be used, they will become blocked. If you go on drawing water every day, more and more water will be flowing into the well and the springs will become bigger because they will be used more.

But people live in the outside economics even in their inner life.

The wife becomes very angry if she finds her husband being friendly with another woman. The husband becomes aggressive, jealous if he finds that his wife was having a good time with somebody else, just enjoying, laughing.

This is sheer stupidity. It is not understanding the inner world and the inner meta-economics.

He is still thinking in terms of money – that if his wife has laughed with somebody else that means she will not be able to laugh with him anymore, so much laughter is lost. Now he is a loser, and of course that creates anger.

In fact, if the wife does not laugh with many people, does not enjoy friendship, is not loving to many people, her love sources will die, she will not be able to love her husband either. She will forget how to love, her springs will dry up.

That’s why you see husbands and wives looking so sad and bored with each other, it is bound to happen. They are going against a natural inner law, you have more the more you give.

Giving does not destroy anything in you, in fact it is creative. The person who loves many people will be able to love his wife or her husband more totally.

But humanity has not yet understood this simple phenomenon. We are still behaving in a very childish and stupid way.

It is as if your beloved asks you, “You can breathe only when I am there and when I am not there, stop breathing because so much breath will be lost, so much life will be lost. And when you come home and you have been breathing in every place, everywhere, you will be almost dead. So when I am not with you, stop breathing!” And the husband also insists, “When I am not at home stop breathing, so that when we are together great breathing happens!”

But both will die.

That’s how we have killed love in the world, we have killed everything valuable because our whole logic is stupid.

It is good that the husband goes for a morning walk and breathes in the fresh air, jogs and runs on the seabeach, and enjoys the sun. And the wife also goes and enjoys the flowers and the trees and the grass. When they come together they will be able to be more alive with each other, more loving to each other. They will be at their peak, they will be full of life juices to share.

But this has not happened yet.

My sannyasins have to remember it: jealousy kills love, possessiveness kills love. Be non-jealous if you want great love to happen, if you want your life to grow multidimensionally it needs freedom.

You need freedom and the person you love needs freedom.

Only in freedom is there expansion, growth.